11 women complain about their husbands

The Hadith of Um Zara – The  11 women

Fundamental Issues and Islamic principles taken from this hadeeth

The etiquette of a man listening to his wife without interrupting her speech. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) listened to Aisha (radi Allahu anha) without cutting her off while she was talking.

 

The superiority of Aisha’s knowledge, comprehension and her preservation of the Shariah.

 

Having nightly or evening chats are from the Sunnah.

 

Thus hadeeth shows the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) had excellent character.

 

This hadith details the moral excellence of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم)Whenever He was asked for something, He never said: “No”.Aisha (Radi Allahu Anha) asked the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) about this hadith and he narrated to her word for word.

 

It’s recommended for a scholar to make things easy to understand when asked about general issues. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) would repeat His speech 3x,so that it could be understood.

 

It’s recommended to ask questions in order to learn the religion. Aisha (radi Allah anha) asked the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) about the Hadith of Um Zara’.

 

Indirect expressions for divorce are invalid unless accompanied with the intention for divorce. Abu Zara’ divorced Um Zara and the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) told Aisha (Radi Allah anha), “I am to you as Abu Zar was to his wife Um Zara’.”

 

Just because something or someone resembles person or thing it does not necessary carry the same verdict. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) compared Himself to Abu Zara’ who divorced his wife and the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) didn’t divorce Aisha based on his comparison of Himself to Abu Zara’.

 

It’s permissible for the man to remind his wife about his kind treatment towards her to strengthen the bond of love.

 

It’s allowed for a man to address some of his family in the presence of others. In one narration Aisha (radi Allahu Anha) mentioned there were other women with her, and the Prophet () said: I am to you as Abu Zar was to his wife Um Zara’”

 

It is recommended for a man to do things to make his wife happy through his speech or actions.

 

There is no harm for the man to remind his wife of his kindness towards her in order to avoid ungratefulness.

 

If a man loves one of his wives more than others there is no blame on his behalf for that feeling. This hadith clearly shows the love the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) had for Aisha.

 

It’s permissible to praise yourself if that praise brings about goodness in religious and worldly affairs. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: I am to you as Abu Zar was to his wife Um Zara”

 

It’s permissible to praise a man in his face if that praise doesn’t corrupt his sense of self. Aisha (Radi Allahu Anha) told the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) “You are better to me than Abu Zara towards his wife.” [ collected in Musnad Abu Ishaq 2/237 with a sound isnad]

 

It’s permissible to narrated authentic stories from the previous nations. In some narrations it mentioned  these 11 women were in Jahiliyah.

 

It’s permissible to joke with your family from time to time.

 

It’s permissible to mention some beautiful descriptions of unknown women to other men or women. This is established in this hadith. It’s not allowed to mention a known woman’s description to others; as this might entice the listener to desire her. i.e my friends wife shouldn’t be described to me.

 

This hadith shows that a man can have the same Kunya as his wife.

 

This hadtih shows that whenever women get together in most times and chat they talk about men or just gossip.
 
 
 
[1] Al-Bukhari (5189)Muslim(244
[2] Shaykh Al-Imam Muhammad ibn Abi Bakr ibn Abdillah born 777 in Damacus . He travelled the earth and learned from 100’s of scholars during his era. Among the most well-known scholars he learned from was Ibn Mullaqqin,Al-Balqeeni, ibn As-Sa-niqh, Ath-Thahabbi’s son (Abdur Rahman). He authored Ithaful Salik bi Riwayatil Muwatta, Iftahul Qara’I li Sahih Al-Bukhari,Musnad Tamim Ad-Darami, and numerous others.